I quoted this song by The Fray in my ministerial profile...I have moments where I look back at myself and am embarrassed that I did that, but still, these lines are what come to mind in situations like this:
"Mine is not a new story
Mine is not a new story
Mine is nothing new
But it is for me"
Not much of the rest of the song applies to me, but these lines always stand out. I know other people have gone through this before. I know that other people have lost those they love, in ever more tragic ways. But I still don't quite know how to handle it. I drift from grateful to morose, from hopeful to pessimistic. I sometimes cry sweet, tissue-dabbing little tears, and other times huge, snotty, raging sobs.